We say things to ourselves that we would never consider saying to someone else. You are fat. You look awful. Why are you so stupid? You can’t do it. When was the last time that you caught yourself doing it? Well it is time to stop the negative messages. It is time to love yourself just a little bit more than you currently do.
It is highly unlikely that you would criticize a friend, relative, or work associate the way that you do yourself, so stop it. Be as patient and understanding with yourself as you would be with everyone else. You can start by eliminating the negative messages that you send to yourself and begin sending yourself positive ones instead. Be encouraging, be kind, and be understanding. You will be much more likely to succeed in the tasks that you set out for yourself if you receive a little more positive feedback from your own personal cheering squad. So think positive.
If negative thoughts creep in, remove them from your mind, and instead give yourself a quick reassuring pat on the back. Tell yourself how wonderful you are, how smart you are, and how capable you are. Tell yourself these positive messages often and throughout the day.
Life is a process of constant learning, and to succeed, we sometimes have to encounter setbacks. We need to know our weaknesses in order to move forward. The process of trial and error is how we learn our skills, our abilities, and our liabilities. We may discover that there are areas in our life in which we may need to improve our skill level. This tells us that we may need more training in that area before we are able to move forward in that direction. This is actually knowledge which can help in our quest to succeed with the task at hand. It is a good thing to sometimes fail.
Don’t beat yourself down because you were not quite ready or able to do all the goals that you had set out for yourself. With continued patience and perseverance you will succeed. Be kind enough, and encouraging enough, to help yourself succeed. Be nice to yourself. Love yourself just a little bit more.
We are not born knowing everything, it takes time, and a continued effort at learning to discover even a small portion of what we will eventually come to know. Wisdom comes with age. Be patient with yourself. You will learn just so many more things as you travel on this amazing pathway that they call life.
Don’t expect yourself to be be perfect. No one else is so why should you have to be. Be nice to yourself. Compliment yourself often. Look in the mirror and practice smiling and flirting with yourself. Learn your best poses and use them to make you make you feel more attractive. Be honest in your assessment of your best features, and focus on these, rather than on any negative qualities that you may perceive as being there. Tell yourself how handsome, cute, gorgeous, or beautiful you are. Say it often.
If you take the time to love yourself just a little more than you currently do, you just might be surprised by how quickly you will change from someone who is often insecure and afraid, to someone who is confident, strong, beautiful, and unafraid (this way you will also reduce stress – Read How to Reduce Stress). You will see the you who was truly meant to be. So be nice to yourself. You are worth it.